Starting preschool is an important milestone in a child's life. For some children, this is the first experience of being away from their parents for an extended period and interacting with a large group of other children. Children who have been cared for at home by a babysitter may be accustomed to spending time with adults other than their parents, but they will also need to adjust to a teacher and an environment outside the home. The first day of preschool and the days that follow can be stressful for parents as well, but with some preparation, it is possible to help children get ready for the situation.
Things to Do in Advance
1. Preparation for a New Sleep Schedule
You may need to wake your child earlier than usual. It would be good to acclimate them to the new sleep schedule as soon as possible. Find out if the institution has its own sleep program or if individual sleep routines of the children are taken into account. This way, you can make arrangements accordingly.
2. Independence Practices
Your child being able to do some things on their own can be advantageous in the preschool environment. If a child can wash their hands and face, dress themselves, etc., the teacher can focus on teaching them other skills and discovering their abilities. Therefore, you should teach your child things they can do independently and give them opportunities to practice. This way, you will also encourage their independence, confidence, and creativity.
3. Visit the Institution / Meet the Teacher
Before the start day of preschool, it would be good to visit the institution with your child one or more times. Being somewhat familiar with the environment and the teachers will reduce the stress of the first day.
Meet the teacher, gather information, and provide tips about your child. If there are specific things to do when they wet their pants or are upset, mention those. Preschool staff are generally good at keeping track of such things, but it would be good to inform them in advance about a word or song that comforts your child.
4. Talk to Your Child About This New Experience
Change can be frightening for people of all ages, and even adults can feel at least some anxiety. Therefore, talk to your child repeatedly about the new routine, explaining where they will go and why in age-appropriate sentences. Reading storybooks related to the topic, telling stories, and showing videos can also be helpful.
5. Separation Exercises
If your child is not used to being away from you for a few hours, the first day of preschool may be challenging for them, and this situation may continue for a while. You can try to get them used to the process by arranging for a babysitter or a neighbor to take care of them for a short time while you go out. They may not like it at first, but over time, they will likely get used to it, and seeing that you return each time will provide them with comfort and security.
6. Excite Your Child
Play games about preschool at home. Try to help them imagine situations like mealtime, nap time, and playtime at the institution, making it fun and exciting. Talk about the friends they will make and the things they will learn.
7. If Possible, Schedule Time for Potential Initial Difficulties
Your child may have issues with being away from you and adjusting to the environment during the first day and even the first week. If possible, look for ways to go to work later for a while or to give yourself more time in the mornings.
8. Establish a New Routine
Newly walking children love repetitive and predictable things. Creating and maintaining a morning routine that aligns with the preschool program helps prevent the stress of rushing and makes the process easier.
9. Items to Bring to Preschool
Make a list of items your child should have with them, such as spare clothes, a cup, tissues, and a water bottle, and obtain any missing items. It would be good to label these. Consult with the institution staff to get information about cleaning and stationery supplies and other items you need to provide.
Things to Do on the First Day
Even if you have prepared very well for the first day of preschool, it will still be somewhat stressful for your child due to the unknown. The situation will likely be difficult for you as well, but try not to show this to your child. Ensure they get a good night's sleep the night before and provide a hearty breakfast in the morning. This way, you can prevent any tension that may arise from hunger or fatigue.
10. When Dropping Off Your Child
Be quick when leaving your child at preschool. We don't mean to just drop them off and leave, but have an idea of how you will leave them. Definitely do not disappear without saying goodbye; this can create a feeling of abandonment. Your child will likely cry, which is a normal reaction. Reassure them that you will be back shortly. Be sure to do this in a way they can understand. Even if young children do not have a developed sense of time, they have a concept of routine. You can make a statement like, "I will be here after you do this."
Pay attention to the teacher's guidance; they likely know methods to calm anxious children. To reduce your child's tears and help them start having fun quickly, act as quickly as possible. After saying goodbye, do not come back. If your child is upset, you naturally want to comfort them, but returning can delay their calming down. A good teacher will step in to help them feel comfortable and engage with what is happening in the classroom. It is important for your child to trust their teacher, and you should act in a way that fosters this trust.
11. Bring a Comforting Object with You
An item that reminds them of home and helps them sleep can soothe little ones. This could be a toy, a blanket, or a comforter.
12. Be Patient, Understanding, and Strong
In the early days, there will be days when your child does not want you to leave. This is a normal reaction; the child will not like the departure of the person they are closest to, love the most, and feel unconditionally loved by. However, children are adaptable; if given time and necessary understanding, they can adjust to new situations. As your child understands that this new environment is safe and that the people there are there to support and care for them, things will become easier.
On the first day of preschool, children may experience excessive separation anxiety. To avoid feeding this anxiety, you must control your tears, no matter how difficult it is, and appear calm and strong.
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