My Child is Hyperactive, What Should I Do?

One of the common issues we face today is Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), which leads parents to feel anxious and uncertain about how to behave towards their children. This situation is a source of stress and distress not only for the family but also for the child. Hyperactive children generally know that their behaviors cause discomfort and concern to those around them, but they cannot help the situation. To overcome this problem, parents need to be understanding and approach the child with love and support; they should also collaborate with the child's doctor and teacher. In this article, we will try to answer the question "how should one behave with a hyperactive child?" Parents should not fall into the illusion that the behaviors of a child with ADHD will improve on their own one day. If ADHD is not treated, the child may exhibit behavioral disorders in their later life, may fail academically, and the likelihood of these outcomes is not insignificant.

What is ADHD? Biological Foundations and Common Misconceptions

Hyperactivity disorder is a biologically rooted issue and is not related to the upbringing of the family or the child. It is a neurodevelopmental disorder caused by differences in the brain's areas responsible for attention, focus, and impulse control. A hyperactive child struggles to control their movements and impulses. Therefore, you may get angry at the child's behaviors, and sometimes you may be justified in being angry, but never impose physical punishments or hit them. Physical punishments lead to the child becoming angry, rebellious, and worsening behavioral disorders.

Hyperactivity is examined under three main headings: attention deficit, hyperactivity, and impulsivity, and a child psychiatrist should be consulted for a definitive diagnosis. Hyperactivity can resemble and be confused with other psychiatric disorders, so accurate diagnosis is the first step towards proper treatment.

Family Management and Discipline: The Power of Patience and Consistency

Do not blame yourself for your child's condition. It is very important for you to be consistent and patient.

• Clear and Consistent Rules: Hyperactive children do not like uncertainty and need clear boundaries. The disciplinary methods you apply to them should always be consistent. If they do not comply with a rule, the restriction you impose should be applied without delay. "Did you tell your child that they cannot watch TV if they do a certain thing? When they do that thing, do not let them watch TV." This consistency helps the child learn the rules and develop a sense of security.

• Positive Reinforcement and Feedback: Hyperactive children feel better when they receive support and love from their environment, just like other children. When your child does something positive, praise them, appreciate them, hug them, and sometimes give them small gifts. Positive reinforcement strengthens their good behaviors and boosts their self-confidence.

• Proportional Consequences: Do not give your child disproportionate punishments for what they did, and do not apply excessive discipline. Overly lenient measures can lead to a lack of discipline; disproportionate punishments can cause the child to become angry, rebellious, and disregard your rules and authority.

• Lying and Feelings of Inadequacy:Hyperactive children may often lie to cover up their failures and the shame and distress they feel as a result. If such a situation arises, you should encourage the child to be honest and help them identify and overcome the problem they are struggling with.

Practical Solutions That Can Be Applied in Daily Life

• Visual Routines and Organization: You should create a daily schedule for your child and ensure that their daily activities are always specific and the same. Routines serve as a guide for hyperactive children; they know what to do and when, which gives them a sense of security. Using a visual chart (with pictures or icons) makes it easier for the child to follow their day.

• Reducing Distractions: Minimize distracting elements (phones, televisions, toys) in the environment where your child will study or eat. This helps improve their focus skills.

• Distraction and Redirection:Hyperactive children will have moments when they are so excited and active that they disturb you or others around them. During such times, try to find another activity to distract them. For example, instead of saying "Run!", you can say, "Come, let's play this game" to channel their energy in a positive direction.

• Dealing with Aggressive Behaviors: They may exhibit behaviors such as kicking or biting towards their surroundings. In this case, avoid giving physical punishment. Leave them alone in a quiet area until they calm down. Wait for times when the child is calm to discuss their behaviors and help them understand the consequences of those behaviors.

Collaboration with the Outside World: School and Professional Support

• Communication with School: You should regularly communicate with your child's classroom teacher or guidance service. Inform them about your child's condition and discuss what support they can receive at school.

• Professional Support:ADHD is a treatable condition. Seeking support from a child psychiatrist, psychologist, and special education expert for your child allows you to guide their development correctly. Treatment may include methods such as medication, therapy (like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), and family counseling.

In conclusion, raising a hyperactive child is a process that requires special patience and understanding. However, it should not be forgotten that this condition is not a fate, but a manageable issue. With the right approach, love, and professional support, a hyperactive child can also be a successful, happy individual who fully realizes their potential, just like other children.